In Robin Sharma’s book, The Saint, The Surfer, & the CEO he refers to the final 3 questions — the questions that are most important at the end of our physical life to determine the quality of how we lived– but why wait until then to ask ourselves these questions
Did I live well?
Did I focus so much on the end goal so much that I missed the present? Did I enjoy and embrace each moment? Did I prioritize doing too far over being? Did I laugh, smile, and take enough time for conscious gratitude? Did I do things to satisfy my inner child? Was my focus point directed to people and activities that give me more energy than they withdraw from me…
Did I love well?
Was I good to the people around me? those who are close? did I help a stranger or give without expectation of receiving after? Did I show and express love to others? What about to myself? Was I a loving, encouraging, supporting, and empowering friend to myself…
Did I serve well?
Did I add value to others? Did I give more to this universe than I took? Is the world a better place for my efforts? Did I make sure that those around me were zapped further with positive energy — or did I sap them with my own negativity and self doubt? Did I care, listen, and support others with genuine interest for their well-being…
What about me you ask?
This year was a rollercoaster. I completely lost myself at times. I lost my present and joy of living in the moment by focusing too far forward. I was chasing what I thought was important, what I thought would make me happy, feel found and more certain– only to be separated further from my true self than ever. No matter what you give to yourself, if you are not giving and adding value to others, at some point even at the highest highs, you’ll end up feeling low and unfulfilled with what you’re doing — trust me on that.
Closing
If you are doing some reflection of the year that has gone by so fast– remember that the higher quality of questions you ask and the more time spent pondering on them deeply– the higher quality answers you will receive. Once you find the right questions to ask, remember to stop and ponder– for the power is truly found in the pondering…